Moral Compass

I have always wondered if we are just born with a moral compass, if it is taught or if it's developed. Everyone has a different true north on theirs. It's always amazed me. I know a man that got wealthy quickly enough to open his own business after being out of town for a couple of weeks and only him, God and whoever he encountered along the way knows the details. I know many others that would give you the shirt off their back, me included, even if it left them freezing to death in the dead of winter. And then there are many others in between. Then there are those that have absolutely no true north, and their compass needle just spins non-stop. Those are the narcissists, abuser, murderers, pedophiles etc. They don't lower their moral standards for financial gain they just roam the earth destroying everyone they come into contact with. I imagine my mother's needle is completely missing. She has been lost her entire life. My dad's true north seems to flip and flop. Sometimes it's financially motivated and sometimes its family motivated. My needle was pieced together over time by watching those around me and deciding who I did and didn't want to be. I have never been financially motivated. Greed has never been a concern for me. My father talked about leaving me the house when he passes because deep down, he too knows that his wife has always and will always favor her children. He was talking about having a will made to ensure that if he passes first that I will get me, and my brother's (even though he has passed) fair share no matter what. I told him I couldn't comfortably agree with that, because once he's gone, I refuse to sit and argue over his things. I don't have it in me at all. It is unfortunate that those with no moral compass and the motto "He/she who cares the least wins," seem to have longer more fulfilled lives at least financially. But my fulfillment comes from my family. Especially my children. The whole family shattered when granny died, and everyone wanted the house and all I wanted was her. I am thankful for my pieced together moral compass. In light of Thanksgiving, I just wanted to remind y'all to make sure your true north is something that truly means something to you that you won't regret when your life is at the end. I would like to share the things I am most thankful for. I am thankful for having the most amazing grandmother on this planet. She passed away in 2010, but everything she taught me and everything she did for me lives on in my memories. The fact that she is the one thing I can talk about from my childhood that makes me smile so much it reaches my eyes is a blessing. She was truly the light in my darkest moments and even when I pushed her away, she never gave up on me. I am thankful for my children who can put a smile on my face and make me laugh so hard even in my worst moments. I am thankful for my dad being a changed man and giving my kids a better version of himself than what I got. I am thankful for my health. I am thankful for my life because Lord knows there are so many times it was put in jeopardy by myself and others multiple times. I am thankful for everyone reading and sharing and replying to my blogs and all my supporters. -Feisty Mommy